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 © 2021 Andrew Lawrence

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I could have written a 400-page book on how to be happy but nobody wants to have to wade through 400 pages so with that in mind I kept the book short, simple and to the point. Yes, this book shows you how to be happy - anytime you want to.  And for the rest of your life. Yes, it works. Real happiness. The authentic and exceptional experience of a lifetime. 

Now, here are the free excerpts

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Introduction

This book was written to help people be happy. To be happy now … and for the rest of their life.

This book contains true and simple secrets of how to be happy. Today. Now. Is it possible to be happier? Is it possible to be happy in spite of your circumstances?  Yes, it is!  Does it work?  Yes, it does!  Can YOU do it?  Yes, you can!  This book can transform your life. It can make you a happier person, not in weeks or months, but today.  And for the rest of your life.  

This book contains the truths of how to be happy, truths which took a lifetime to uncover. These truths have worked for me for more than 3 decades … and they can work for you!

All that is asked in return for revealing the secrets of happiness and transforming your life is that you pass it on; help others be happy. Do that and, together, we can make the world a happier place.

Be happy. Stay happy. Help others be happy.


Stage 1

Prepare for Happiness


The world’s biggest problem?

¨ poverty

¨ hunger

¨ disease

¨ pollution

¨ overpopulation

¨ global warming

¨ environmental abuse

¨ greed

¨ politics

¨ war

¨ materialism

¨ lack of freedom

¨ illiteracy

¨ smoking

¨ drugs

¨ stupidity

¨ other


Unhappiness is the world’s biggest problem. Unhappiness can lead to war, murder, crime, hate, envy, jealousy and other nasties. 

We can change that. We can solve the world’s biggest problem. We can make the world a better place. A happier place. How do you change the world? You change the world one person at a time.  Starting with YOU. Let’s make YOU happy!


What is happiness?

Happiness is a state of mind. An emotion. A feeling. A reaction. There’s even a part of our brain where happiness is triggered. When we are happy that part of our brain “lights up“.

There are 2 types of happiness; temporary or instant happiness and overall long term happiness.  Temporary happiness occurs when something pleasant happens to us; we get a raise, a compliment, win something, etc. Temporary or instant happiness is fleeting and wears off or disappears rapidly. Temporary happiness is a short term feeling or emotion and is usually triggered by a particular event. Overall long term happiness occurs when we feel good because things are going well over a period of time and we are happy with our life. Overall happiness is a long-term feeling and is normally based on our own subjective viewpoint about our life.

This book reveals the simple secrets about both types of happiness. The Happiness Transformation will reveal the simple secrets of how to be temporarily happy - now - and how to be happy long term.

The benefits of happiness

The benefits of happiness are numerous, natural and healthful. According to experts, just feeling happy can produce a tremendous lift to your spirits, can be good for your immune system, can boost your brain function, reduce stress and can open the door to attracting good things.

What makes YOU happy? (check all that apply)

¨ money

¨ good job

¨ love

¨ family

¨ friends

¨ looking good

¨ feeling good

¨ nice house

¨ nice car

¨ food

¨ shopping

Do you want it?

Do you want to be happy? Do you REALLY want to be happy? The reason for this question is because some people may not want to be happy or may not be ready to be happy. How is that possible? Some people may be more comfortable being unhappy, they may be used to being unhappy, their life may be built around being unhappy. Being happy, if you are not used to it, is a new feeling. It can be a little unsettling, even a little scary.

To go from unhappy to happy is a change. A big change. A good change but a big change. Your life will be different. YOU will be different. You’ll be happier. And you’ll have to get used to that. The great news it that happiness is something truly valuable, truly priceless, and is not hard to get used to.

You can’t force someone to be happy. In order to be happy a person has to allow it, has to want it. In order to be happy you have to WANT to be happy.  It sounds stupid but it’s true.

Have you had enough of being unhappy? Are you ready to give up unhappiness and trade it for happiness?  Do you WANT to be happy?  Now?  If you answered Yes you are ready to proceed.  You are ready to be happy.

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Why people are not happy

There are many reasons why you may be unhappy or not happier. Maybe your life really does suck.  Maybe you lost your job.  Maybe your spouse is divorcing you. Maybe you didn’t get the raise you wanted. Maybe your health is not as good as you‘d like.  Maybe you have good reasons to be unhappy. Maybe life is not fair. Maybe you’re thinking that everybody else is getting all the good stuff and you’re getting all the bad stuff.  Maybe you’re thinking that life is not fair. You’re right, life is NOT fair!  Life is not all sunshine and roses. Sometimes it rains, sometimes it pours and roses also have sharp thorns. Life, indeed, is not fair. And lately, maybe life has not been fair to YOU. And maybe you are not as happy as you’d like to be. And maybe your life really does suck right now. The key is the “right now”.  Right now does not mean forever (though it may feel like it). Right now only means right now. All by itself your life can turn around, can change, can get better. But we’re not going to sit around and wait for that to happen. We are going to CREATE happiness.  Starting now. And it’s easier than you think.

OK, so maybe your life is not what you want it to be and you’re not happy. On the other hand, you’re not dead yet so there’s hope.  Though it may feel like you’re in a box, like there’s no way out, like your life sucks and will continue to suck - know this; your life is NOT over. And, if things look hopeless - know this; miracles DO happen!  Don’t give up before the miracle, be there for the miracle. Take deep breath and relax.

Perception

Happiness is largely based on perception. From childhood we learn that our happiness is dependent on outside forces.  We base our feelings on how well we think the world is treating us. In the American culture we learn that happiness is based on how successful we are, our status in life, or maybe how much “stuff” we own, and how good or bad our partnerships, marriage and family is going. This viewpoint is reinforced throughout our lifetime by our parents, school, peer pressure, TV, work, and society. As a result, the pressure to perform is often enormous, the pressure to be successful is often intense.  In America and around the world the happiness bar is set so high that few can attain or sustain the heights of happiness.  Add to that the psychological hurts inflicted on us by circumstances and people as we go through life and it’s no wonder so many people are unhappy or not as happy as they would like to be.

All that is about to change.

Let’s begin with a true story of a life changing revelation …


The choice

When I was in my mid-20’s, and living in New York City, my life fell apart.  I was out of work, didn’t know what to do with my life, wasn’t broke but had no income, had no wife, no kids, no girlfriend, nothing to occupy my time, and no place to go. My life was at an all-time low. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I couldn’t sleep, I had no appetite, I had no interest in anything.  I had no life. This went on for months, and things kept getting worse.

Late one sleepless night, after endless hours of flipping through the channels on my TV, and finding nothing to watch, I decided to take a bathroom break. In the bathroom I found myself staring at my face in the bathroom mirror. It was 3AM. I stared at the exhausted miserable depressed face in the mirror and thought that can’t be me, that can’t be MY face staring back at me. I didn’t recognize my own face. I looked terrible.  I continued to stare at the face in the mirror.  I looked terrible.  I felt terrible. I was horrified at what my life had become. I was a complete failure.  I saw it etched deeply in my face. I was in total despair. I continued to stare at my face in the bathroom mirror. I saw myself at my worst.  I had hit rock bottom. After 10 minutes of that I went back into the living room and continued to watch TV. Flipping through the channels I saw a blond woman speaking to an audience. I thought it must be one of those endless late-night infomercials but something about the woman caught my eye. I turned up the volume to hear what she was saying.  What she said was, “Happiness is a choice.  You can CHOOSE to be happy.”  What? I thought, how can you be happy when everything in your life sucks? How can you be happy when your life is falling apart? When your life sucks you are supposed to be miserable, you are supposed to be UN-happy!  Happiness is not a choice I thought, it’s a reaction, a reaction to outside circumstances and when outside circumstances are not good how can you be happy? What is this lady taking about? She said it again: “Happiness is a choice.  You can CHOOSE to be happy.”  Could it be possible? Could it be possible to feel good when everything in your life was bad? It sounded impossible to me. It went against everything I had learned about happiness.  I had never considered that happiness was a choice.  I had never considered that you could simply choose to be happy. I thought it was a stupid and crazy idea.  But, as my life was a total disaster and I was at rock bottom I decided to test out the stupid and crazy idea that happiness was a choice, that you could CHOOSE to be happy. I decided to stop being miserable about my circumstances. It was difficult at first. I kept at it. After about 10 minutes I noticed that I was feeling better. After 15 minutes I was less miserable.  After 20 minutes I was actually starting to feel g-o-o-d.  I began to realize that I was getting happier, even though my circumstances were still miserable. I was CHOOSING to be happy.  This was a completely new concept for me. It was a revelation.  It was a miracle. My feelings were no longer tied to outside forces.  I could choose how I wanted to feel. I chose to be happy. And it felt GOOD!  It felt much better than feeling lousy and unhappy. The blond lady on TV was right!  Happiness is a choice. You can CHOOSE to be happy!  And when I chose to be happy instead of being unhappy my life started to change for the better.

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Choose to be happy

You are not your circumstances. If your circumstances are not as good as you’d like there’s often some good reasons for that …

§  sometimes bad things happen to good people

§  sometimes we are simply at the wrong place at the wrong time

§  sometimes, by our own actions or inactions, we bring bad things upon ourselves

In spite of circumstances you can still choose to be happy. Your happiness does not have to depend on outside forces. Or other people. You can choose to be happy.  All by yourself.  Independently. You have the power to do that. You have the power to be happy. Right now. All you have to do is choose to be happy. Please note that you should normally abide by laws, human morality etc. There is a price to pay when you break the rules (though some rules maybe should be broken).

Can you be happy all the time? 

No. Having an overall positive happy outlook does not mean that you will be happy all the time. The idea that you can be happy ALL the time is unrealistic. And there are situations where happiness is not appropriate; you probably don’t want to be smiling and laughing at a funeral. You could choose to do that but it also might be considered highly inappropriate.

Life has its ups and downs and sometimes you will feel sad or unhappy.  That is normal. Sadness or grief or unhappiness are common appropriate reactions to outside forces or bad things that happen to us and an appropriate time period is necessary to emotionally process and deal with these types of issues. A prolonged sustained period of unhappiness is another matter. If you are depressed or unhappy for a long time and it is interfering with your ability to function or enjoy life it is time to seek professional help. It’s time to call your doctor.  

Depression

Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. That’s chemistry. Depression is a medical issue, a medical issue that can be remedied. Millions of people suffer from depression. Here’s a true story about one of those people … me.

Once upon a time I had a serious operation. Major surgery. A year later I became very depressed. After a period of time of deepening depression I finally mentioned it to my doctor.  Turns out that depression was common after the type of surgery I had. It was a chemical imbalance which caused the depression. I began treatment and a few weeks later I began to feel like my old self again.  Living with depression is not fun, nor is it fun for everyone around you. Depression is often very treatable and it’s well worth seeing a doctor and getting cured. You do not have to cope with depression.  You do not have to live with depression.

 

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Stage 2

Attaining Happiness


The goal of life

What is the goal of life? The goal of life is happiness. Happiness. That's what we're all seeking. That's how we're made. The goal of life is happiness. Think about it. That is what you (and everyone else) is really striving for in life. To be happy. All of us, every single one of us on the planet, wants most of all, to be happy. There must be a reason for that.

True happiness does not come from money or a big house or a luxury automobile or a face-lift or a big job or being popular or handsome or pretty or having lots of clothes or expensive toys. True happiness comes from within.

The goal of life is happiness.

It’s what every parent wants for their children. Ultimately, parents just want their children to grow up and be happy.

In the end you don’t want or need to be the richest or most powerful person, you want to be the happiest person in your community.

In the end you don’t want to be the meanest nastiest person, you want to be the happiest person in your community.

In the end you don’t want to be one of the unhappy people, you want to be one of the happy people.

The goal of life is happiness. That goal can be reached. It can be reached NOW.


Be happy

Learn how to be happy right now … and for the rest of your life. It's easy, it's fast, and yes, it can work!


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There you have it, your free preview of "The Happiness Transformation". 

If you want to read the rest of the book, and want to quickly and easily learn how to be happy NOW, and for the rest of your life, you can buy the complete book. It's available on Amazon.com  worldwide, in paperback for under $10 and kindle edition for under $4. Click the Amazon.com link to proceed. Is YOUR happiness worth $10? 


Have the experience of a lifetime. Any time you want. Happiness. Get it now.


People and organizations are welcome to support this heroic quest to make the world a happier place. How?

1.     You can buy the book and be happy yourself, now and for the rest of your life
2.     You can tell your friends, family or contacts or readers or followers about the book
3.     You can gift the book to people you know that deserve to be happy
4.     You can donate to the GoFundMe campaign https://gofund.me/d91b4908

Or all of the above.

Let’s make the world a happier place. Yes, we can!

To contact the author re collaboration or praise, email him at andls (AT) aol.com

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